Don’t Help the Users – Move Your A$$ Monday #32

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Move Your Ass Monday! #32 – Don’t Help the Users

Hi this is Warren Greshes and welcome to, “Move Your Ass Monday!”  I’m here to eliminate all the excuses, get your week started on a high note and make sure you reach your fullest potential.

Don’t you just hate it when people ask for your advice and help but when you give it to them they come up with a Christmas list of excuses for why they can’t do it or why it can’t be done.

What’s even worse is when you spend a lot of your own time and energy helping someone who asked for your help, let you do most of the heavy lifting, and then flaked out on you.

That is why years ago I decided to live by one very simple rule, which you might be very interested in.  It’s designed to separate the serious people from the time wasters.  And it is this:

I will give you all the help and advice you want and ask for as long as your commitment to yourself remains larger than my commitment to you.  The second my commitment to you becomes greater than your commitment to yourself, I’m outta here.

Unfortunately, I had to have my time wasted way too often before I figured it out.  Now when people come to me for help or advice, I tell them I’ll be glad to help them as long as they complete a list of tasks I give them.  These tasks are related to what they want to achieve, and by completing them will get them on the way to where they want to be.

Once they’ve done those things, I ask them to come back to me and I’ll give them all the help they want.  Why not; they’ve shown they’re willing to do what it takes.  Of course, asking them to do those tasks eliminates 97% of the people who approach me, otherwise known as the “Time Wasters,” or “Users.”

They were never serious, but figured, “Hey, if this dope wants to do all the work for me, I’ll take him up on it.”  Well not this dope.  Besides, the time you waste with the “Users,” is time you could have spent with the 3% who need your help and advice, will use it and prosper because of it.

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