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It’s Never Too Late To Do The Hard

Two years ago, I posted a blog article titled, Consequences of the Easy Way Out.

It detailed the experiences of my son, Michael who was 18 at the time. It told how his penchant for taking the easy way out had put him in a position where he had limited his college choices. He ended up at a school he hated and while he did well, academically, in his one year there, his transfer choices were limited, to say the least.

I wrote in the article, “The good news for Michael is that these are not earth shattering or life threatening mistakes, and since he’s only 18 his actions, or lack of it, have become a valuable learning experience.”

Thankfully, I was correct.

Michael decided, since he couldn’t go where he wanted to go, he would take a year off from school and work full-time. Let me tell you something: there is nothing like a dose of the real world to really help you appreciate what it takes to be successful.

Michael worked hard as a Pizza delivery man for the local Pizza Parlor. He made a lot of money and saved a lot money. He invested wisely in the stock market and made a significant profit.

After a year, he decided it was time to go back. Through an acquaintance of ours, he was told about an excellent small private university 45 minutes to the west: Elon University. We checked it out; Michael loved it, applied and was accepted.

If he would have applied right out of high school, no way he gets in. But since he decided to “Do the hard,” his first year of college, those freshman grades got him accepted to a school he really enjoys and where he is not taking the easy way out.

Mistakes, bad judgment, always looking for the easy way out; these are not irrevocable tragedies. You can easily turn these around to your advantage just by realizing “The extra effort I put in up front, will save me far more time and effort in the long run; make my life better overall and assure me a successful future.”

2 Responses to “It’s Never Too Late To Do The Hard”

  1. Good to hear that your son is progressing in a positive manner in school. I know many people that were in the same boat as his age – myself included.

    I think they should start teaching both goal setting and the study of what it takes to be truly successful in school at a young age. Many people have been very successful without understanding much of what is taught in some of the courses today, but few have been successful without understanding the priciples of success and taking them to heart.

  2. Gary

    Thanks for your comment and you're right: they should teach this in school at a young age. The problem is: most teachers don't do it and many don't believe in it. Government monopoly public schools are more interested in herding people through than in the power of the individual, which is what has always been the strength of this country.

    Our ability to innovate is what sets us apart from so many other societies.

    At High Point University (I wrote about this school in a previously blog), every freshman must take a course called "The President's Seminar." It's a semester long course where President Qubein himself teaches them exactly the kind of goal setting and life skills that will help to make them successful after they graduate.

    Thanks again for your comment.

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