It’s Never Too Late To Do The Hard

Two years ago, I posted a blog article titled, Consequences of the Easy Way Out.

It detailed the experiences of my son, Michael who was 18 at the time. It told how his penchant for taking the easy way out had put him in a position where he had limited his college choices. He ended up at a school he hated and while he did well, academically, in his one year there, his transfer choices were limited, to say the least.

I wrote in the article, “The good news for Michael is that these are not earth shattering or life threatening mistakes, and since he’s only 18 his actions, or lack of it, have become a valuable learning experience.”

Thankfully, I was correct.

Michael decided, since he couldn’t go where he wanted to go, he would take a year off from school and work full-time. Let me tell you something: there is nothing like a dose of the real world to really help you appreciate what it takes to be successful.

Michael worked hard as a Pizza delivery man for the local Pizza Parlor. He made a lot of money and saved a lot money. He invested wisely in the stock market and made a significant profit.

After a year, he decided it was time to go back. Through an acquaintance of ours, he was told about an excellent small private university 45 minutes to the west: Elon University. We checked it out; Michael loved it, applied and was accepted.

If he would have applied right out of high school, no way he gets in. But since he decided to “Do the hard,” his first year of college, those freshman grades got him accepted to a school he really enjoys and where he is not taking the easy way out.

Mistakes, bad judgment, always looking for the easy way out; these are not irrevocable tragedies. You can easily turn these around to your advantage just by realizing “The extra effort I put in up front, will save me far more time and effort in the long run; make my life better overall and assure me a successful future.”


How The Motivator Got Motivated

Like many people out there today, I was one of those unmotivated, directionless people walking around in a comatose state, mumbling, “I hate my job; I don’t want to do this anymore. But what else could I possibly do? This is the only thing I know, and besides, they pay me well, so I might as well stay!” Whoa, talk about commitment! “They pay me well, so I might as well stay!” How would you like to have someone like that working for you?

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It was 1983. I had spent almost 10 years working in the garment center in New York City and I hated it! But instead of constantly whining that I was stuck and “what else could I do,” I had a revelation. I said to myself, “Hey, putz, it’s not that there’s nothing else you can do—there’s always something else you can do. It’s just that you’re too lazy to get off your big fat ass to figure out what it is.” So that’s what I did. I got off my big fat ass (it’s much smaller now), went to see a career counselor, was put through my first ever goal setting session, and within months had the career I wanted along with a job that I created! I was head of sales and marketing for a small training and consulting firm in New York City.

After two years on that job I decided I wanted to be in my own business. I went back to my goal setting skills (which were now even sharper, since I went to every goal setting and training seminar that I sold) to write a plan for my new business. I started my business in March 1986 and I’m still out there going strong.

Probably the biggest change I ever made was in 1997 when my wife, children, and I relocated from New York City (where we had lived our entire lives) to Chapel Hill, North Carolina. Every time I tell people that, they always say the same thing: “Wow, that’s a big change!” I know, that’s why we did it. If I wanted a small change, I would have moved to the east side.

But, as with any other big change in my life, I didn’t just wake up one day and say to my wife, “We gotta get the hell out of here, so let’s throw a dart into the map of the United States and wherever it hits, that’s where we go.”

We started discussing this three years before we left, and after asking the inevitable question, “Where do we go?” we took our goal setting and planning skills and formulated criteria and a profile of what we felt would be the perfect place for our family.

After narrowing it down and coming up with Chapel Hill, we then visited it so many times we knew every inch of the place. It was only then that we knew it would be the perfect place for us, and it has been.

Having a clearly defined written goal and plan will motivate and energize you to go out and achieve anything you really want in your life, career, or business. I’m always amazed at how easy it’s been for me to get whatever I want, once I bother to figure out what is; and that’s what I want to do for you in my new DVD, Goal Setting Techniques that Work.


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Goal Setting Techniques That Work

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Success and Resentment

Have you ever wondered why so many people resent success? I know the attitude that underlies this resentment, but there is no justification for it. Most successful people get where they are by not only outworking and outthinking everyone else, but also because they are willing to take the kind of risks that average people fear.

In fact, many of the people who resent success had many of the same opportunities to be successful, if not more. However, instead of looking in the mirror and admitting they were unwilling to do what it took to get there, they find it much more satisfying to try and bring others down. I have been watching this for many years and witnessed it again over the weekend.

This past Saturday, I spent 9 hours in a high school gym watching my daughter Emily, and her team, The Bouncing Bulldogs, compete in the Region II Jump Rope Championships. The top four finishers in their age group, in each event (11 of them), qualify for the national championships, held at the end of June in Orlando.

Emily competed in all eleven events and I’m very proud to say that she won the gold medal in eight events, the bronze medal in one and a 5th place ribbon in another. In fact, based on total points the Bouncing Bulldogs as a team, won the regional championships for the 15th straight year. The Bulldogs have won the national championship for the last three years running and make up the majority of the US National Team that has dominated the world championships the last two times it was held. They are arguably the best jump rope team in the world.

What’s puzzling and very disturbing, though not surprising about their success, is the reaction of other teams and people, including those in charge of the sport! Instead of trying to duplicate their success; holding them up as role models; or promoting them as the face of the sport (for purposes of legitimizing the sport), the Bulldogs have been bad-mouthed and derided by other teams jealous of their success, yet far too lazy to try and duplicate it.

USA Jump Rope, the governing body of the sport (a sport that is desperate to get recognized as an Olympic sport) even changes the rules used in competition on a yearly basis, in order to try and derail the Bulldog express. Naturally, it hasn’t worked; the Bulldogs just work harder and keep winning. Duh!

At this past weekend’s regional championships, two teams who had been in our region in the past, switched regions this year because they complained that not enough of their kids were qualifying for Nationals. The other teams there were almost disdainful of the Bulldogs. One group of coaches and parents from another team wouldn’t even clap when kids from the Bulldogs were called up to receive their medals and ribbons. How pathetic is that?

The Bulldogs, like any successful group, outwork everybody. These kids are in the gym almost every single day. The older kids MENTOR the younger ones and make sure they pass down this culture of excellence. Are they doing anything that any other team couldn’t do? Of course not; they’re just doing what almost every other team is unwilling to do. But instead of looking in the mirror, taking responsibility and trying harder (much harder), these teams and the sorry adults who run them have the misguided notion that their failure is not so bad if they can tear down those who have succeeded.

I’ll guarantee if asked, every one of these other teams would want the same success as the Bulldogs, which tells us that people resent successful people mostly because they’re not one of them.

Bringing someone else down to legitimize your own failures does not make you more successful; it just makes you a bigger loser. I would much rather give it my all and fall a little short, than never give it a shot and knock those who do. How about you?